Tips on How to Overcome Self-pity

Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality.  

– John W. Gardner

Below you will find an eclectic variety of useful ways to overcome self-pity.

Keep a journal

Keeping a gratitude journal, where you write down a list of things that you’re thankful for each day, is one effective way of re-programming your thought patterns.  Nothing too small is irrelevant to write down, e.g. something like “I’m thankful that this cup of tea is warm and soothing” or “I appreciate the softness of my pillow”, shouldn’t be ignored.  Whatever you are thankful for write down.  Do this with patience and deliberation (remember, it’s not a race).

Take regular long walks

Exercise has been proven to boost the levels of endorphins in your brain, which are responsible for elevating your mood (plus a million other benefits).  You may also like to consider joining a gym, or investing in your own sports equipment if you prefer privacy.

Meditate

Meditation is a miracle cure for many mental ills, however, it does require patience, persistence and self-discipline.  By meditating for 10 minutes a day, you increase your ability to become self-aware, and thus your ability to catch yourself in the act of fulfilling self-pitying thoughts.

Inner work

Inner work is an all-encompassing life practice that involves working with your soul. This means that we consciously decide to go on a journey to reconnect with our inner needs, wounds and destiny. Part of inner work involves becoming aware of the various mental illnesses you currently entertain, you can read more about mental traps here. Whether indirectly or directly, our whole website is dedicated to helping you embark on your own inner work.

Help those less fortunate than you

Volunteering really helps you to put your life into perspective, and helps you to appreciate what you have more.  Volunteering also boosts self-esteem, confidence and compassion.

Try to minimalize your environment

Cluttered, messy environments contribute to paranoia, hoarding tendencies, anxiety and depression.  By simplifying your environment, you may find that your psychological and emotional welfare is significantly increased.

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