Effective Ways to Control Anger
Do you fume when you are being cut off in traffic? Does your blood pressure rocket when someone refuses to cooperate? Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion but it’s crucial to deal with it positively. Uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both your health and your relationships. Even God frowns at someone that cannot control the anger.
Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.
Eccl. 7:9
Failing to manage your anger can lead to a variety of problems like saying things you will regret, yelling at your kids, threatening your co-workers, sending rash emails, developing health problems, or even resorting to physical violence.
Here are tips on how to manage your anger effectively
1. Think before you Speak
In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to say something you will later regret. Take a few moments to gather your thoughts before saying anything; allow others involved in the situation to do the same too.
2. Take a Walk
Trying to win an argument or sticking it out in an unhealthy situation will only fuel your anger. One of the best things you can do when you are angry is to walk away from the situation. When a conversation gets heated, take a break. Leave a meeting if you think you are going to explode.
3. Talk to a Friend
If there is someone who has a calming effect on you, talking through an issue or expressing your feelings to that person may be helpful. It’s crucial to note, however, that venting can backfire.
4. Practice Relaxation Skills
When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word such as “Take it easy”. You might also listen to music if you are the type that loves music. Do whatever it takes to encourage relaxation.
5. Seek Help
Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone at times. Seek help for anger issues if your anger seems out of control, causes you to do things you regret, or hurt those around you.
6. Manage your Thoughts
Angry thoughts add fuel to your anger. Thoughts like “I can’t stand it” will increase your frustration. When you find yourself thinking about things that fuel your anger, reframe your thoughts.
7. Forgive
Forgiveness is a virtue. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation and strengthen your relationship.
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April 1, 2021 @ 7:10 pm
Because we are human, it’s healthy to express our anger. Everyone does this in a different way. Some people, however, have extremely powerful feelings of anger that can lead to aggressive behaviors such as yelling or even physical actions like hitting. The human body automatically uses its fight-or-flight response to protect itself from danger, which is a good thing in some cases. But we cannot become physical with everything or everyone that makes us mad because we will get in trouble. Social norms, common sense, and laws have limits on how we show our response to anger.
April 8, 2021 @ 11:38 am
Anger is a normal and healthy emotion as pointed out by the writer but when handled “POSITIVELY” oh but those uncontrolled anger can detrimental to health and relationship as well.
April 8, 2021 @ 11:58 am
Thanks for this beautiful write up. So many people has actually lost many things because of uncontrolled anger. My best tip is No 7 “Forgive” indeed forgiveness is a virtue.
April 9, 2021 @ 9:32 am
In other to control your anger you need to avoid being in haste to talk when angry because you will regret it later when the anger must have been normalized.