3 Emotions that Can Ruin your Life
Emotions that ruin your life when you feel like a victim
In my encounters with individuals, I have met two types of people: those who always find excuses for their flaws and shortfalls, and those who readily learn from their failings because they accept responsibility for their failings.
The truth is that it is frequently easier to blame others, which is what has kept many young people down; it creeps in every time you fail, every time you fall short in your decision or fail to make one. Every day and time, I am reminded of the importance of being attentive and recognizing when I begin to derail into the victim perspective.
Life is challenging for everyone; there is almost no one who is unaffected by life’s obstacles; sometimes, you have to be able to become so alert that you don’t let the behaviour of others get to you or even let your challenges overtake you. But, most importantly, the culprit is you; you are the primary source of your victim mindset, and when you accept responsibility for how you feel, fantastic things can happen for you.
You are your own worst critic; thus, be gentle with yourself. Don’t beat yourself up; these are people who believe they don’t deserve nice things in life; I once met someone who thought she would fail at a job interview even before going; the sad reality is that these sentiments are so strong that you will frequently end up right; much like your own prophet of doom.
Below are few emotions that work with your victim mindset
1. Guilt
The guilt of not making the difference you wanted, of hurting people you care about, and of making or not making sense of life can be a restriction since it alters your vision of life; things aren’t always as they appear. You may be harbouring guilt from a prior relationship or because you made a terrible decision that is affecting yours and other people’s life.
Guilt can arise from a variety of sources; regardless of where it originates, be kind to yourself and forgive yourself; forgive those that hurt you as well; because even when you think you’re forgiving others, it’s usually about you.
Understand that as far as life is concerned, we are all students, we all make mistakes; even the wisest and most powerful do; be meek and humble in spirit, be truthful to yourself and the humility that surrounds the truth you have told yourself about life will keep you free.
Understand that your freedom won’t come from lack of consequences; your freedom will come from the lesson learnt and the acceptance of consequences without necessarily sinking into regrets.
2. Regret
Regret inhibits lessons; you cannot learn from mistakes if your life is full of regrets and the truth is that regrets have the potential of ruining your plans; they have a way of reminding you about the decisions you made that are not worth it; don’t get me wrong, reminding ourselves of the lessons is very important as far as we do it without reliving the hurt and pain.
So rather, than mourn and moan in regrets, pick up the pieces that you have and solve the puzzle and with a clear vision you will make good amends.
3. Fear
When it comes to human growth potential, fear is a significant component. Fear is one strong emotion from which many positives can be derived; positives such as courage, discipline, and so on; life as a whole will amount to nothing without people transcending their fears.
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